I’ve definitely been there! While OLD is gaining more attention, it’s relatively rare. I don't trust my past memories, cause I think I must've suppressed them. How do you deal with them. In Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Pure Obsessional OCD (Pure O) HOCD is a misunderstood and under-recognized. I made a similar post yesterday, but i didn't really get any answers, so here i go again. This means no more ruminating, no second thoughts about stuff, just let the thoughts pass and your false attraction will pass with time and effort put in. This is totally screwing me over. It’s estimated that less than 0.1 percent of people have the disorder.. It isn't as arousing like straight porn most times, and it's something I try to avoid unless in extreme doubt. The more you try to understand it and dissect it, the more confusing and anxiety-inducing it becomes. OCD appears to be a mental/emotional disorder which could affect the outcome of any endeavor. And OCD is only one thing : irrational fear. I don't know if I'm attracted to the same sex or not, but it feels like it's real every time i see a good looking guy. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. —HOCD is a subtype of OCD, affecting individuals that continuously doubt their sexual orien—nah. The obsessive thoughts are unpredictable and provoke extreme anxiety that leads us to believe we'll never have control of our thoughts. I guess that's why this all bothers me so much. This could be to something they see as gay or any other thing they fear (harm ocd sufferers often refer to debating if … It’s the nature of obsessions and compulsions. Initially I focussed only on the physiological aspect: chest tightening, breath slowing. Panic attacks, anxiety, nausea pain in the chest etc. Maybe the false attraction or whatever it is is just a self fulfilling prophecy? Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is a condition marked by a pattern of unwanted, intrusive thoughts, feelings, images, sensations, or urges that take the form of a Feared Story. I've had hocd for a few months now, the thoughts aren't as frequent as they used to but now instead of "maybe I'm gay" it's like sometimes I'm certain of it. Your body went into chaos when you began to doubt yourself. It is the same mechanism. What i'm afraid of is that i've convi ced myself of it. These facts alone should help straight HOCD folks to see that they are indeed straight. But logically speaking, gay people encompass less than 10 percent of the population. WPN Hi everyone....I've been suffering with hocd for 3 years now.I've had practically every symptom from groinal responses to fake urges(in my opinion the worst one)but I'm slowly on the path to recovery but I still get attraction which is annoying me to no end can someone please elaborate on what it is???? I have dealt with a number of people who were going round and round about false memories. False attraction can be so frustrating, because it really can feel so real. Having less anxiety is a good thing, think of it in a positive way. This means it’s quite likely you are not gay, statistically speaking. I know I’m not attracted to children in real life, but my thoughts are so vivid and even just the thought of a cute child makes me anxious as hell and I feel like im attracted as if i was a 12 year old with a crush again but not sexual attraction. variant of Pure Obsessional OCD (Pure O). I used to get a lot of anxiety over it, now not so much (after i realized that having anxiety means it's hocd, anxiety kinda dropped which worries me). When I try and imagine the past, I feel there must have been some attraction, even though I had no crushes/fantasies on guys that I can remember of. But now I feel like I'm actually attracted to guys. 2) I've watched gay porn. What worries me is the false attraction, i keep getting nervous next to guys I know are good looking, i feel urges to look at crotches, i don't know. When it comes to guys, I don't know if denial is causing me to freak out or if it's OCD. The thoughts are like I'm convinced of it. If you have never really thought about the OCD part of HOCD, it’s something you should learn more about, as that’s the part of your thought processes that you can learn to have control over. OCD ATTRACTION HOCD VS DENIAL GROINAL RESPONSE GAY OCD SEXUAL ORIENTATION ANXIETY HOCD HELP HOCD VS DENIAL AM I GAY? In this video I address a subtype of OCD, POCD. Homosexual OCD, Sexual Orientation OCD, Gay OCD, or more commonly HOCD, is an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) subtype centered around persistent doubt and fear about the sufferer’s sexual orientation. False memories are quite common when OCD gets bad. This sub is for anyone with OCD who have sexual orientation or gender related obsessions including HOCD, TOCD, and Sexual Orientation OCD. I did have a lot of female crushes and fantasies. I don't get any sexualised thoughts unless I determinedly hunt for them. HOCD and false attractions!!!!! TLDR: How can you tell if false attractions are real or not? Typically, those who suffer from OCD false memory would get an intrusive thought that they have done something bad at a specified time and place, where they are not able to tell the difference whether it is intrusive or an actual memory. My issues started in June. Since u know it’s just hocd then u r less anxious about being gay cause it’s less probable, this happened to me and I didn’t have thoughts for two weeks but it came back, but I’m trying to recover. It feels genuine. His feelings may be a false attraction created by and fueled by his OCD, and that, too, is absolutely OK. As a disclaimer: This video does not address actual pedophiles or condone pedophilia in any way. For me, questioning why I found BTS attractive plus these physical reactions triggered everything. 3) When I see attractive girls, I remember having calm reactions. This all comes down to focusing so much on the thoughts, looking for anything that could be seen as attractive, comparing anything to seek proof these thoughts are true. Many people report the same fear coming on with intrusive thoughts or obsessions. OCD is the doubt disease and it will do everything within his power to latch onto your fears and doubts to trigger panic on the deepest level. HOCD, at it's very core, is OCD, just latched on to a particular thought, in this case, being gay/straight. Weirdly, now I freak out a little sometimes, after I notice myself noticing an attractive female. I just don’t understand why sometimes it feels like I enjoy the thoughts and sometimes it doesn’t. I don’t know what a “false attraction” is in clinical terms. Homosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (HOCD) is categorized by intrusive thoughts revolving around one’s sexual orientation.People with HOCD suffer through uncontrollable and unwanted intrusive thoughts and images that leave them in a state of fear and anxiety about whether they are truly straight. ? While this disorder is generally referred to as “HOCD”, it does not always pertain to specifically “homosexual” themes, but can also include fears of bi-sexuality, pan-sexuality, and even fears of heterosexuality. Feelings of attraction or what some in the community call 'False Attraction' commonly happen, as do physical feelings of arousal. Does someone relate to this or knoe what's going on? How can you tell if you're having false attractions or not? You have to try and not let it bother you. Its not that. If you can tell, how do you deal with them? HOCD is an illness, and who but a gay HOCD sufferer would … And after I'm done with straight porn, I feel straight mostly. Attraction for women is really faint, although it has gotten better recently. A lot of people with ocd tend to ask themselves if they liked something and compulsively check their response. Law of Attraction is a metaphysical belief that through energized, positive thinking, imagery a person can, as they like, focus on a goal, ambition or outcome. Homosexual OCD can be debilitating to one’s life. They create a nagging doubt in your mind. The mind plays tricks on you but your body doesn’t. HOCD (Homosexual OCD) is ostensibly a variant of OCD in which the sufferer obsesses about being gay. I don't know what to do. However, some people with OCD do come out as gay and enter into gay relationships, even when they report they are more attracted to the opposite sex. Once you gain control, the emotion starts to fade. I'd rather be Asexual than be gay. 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